Accept other believers who are weak in faith, and don't argue with them about what they think is right or wrong. 

...

So why do you condemn another believer? 

Why do you look down on another believer?

Romans 14:1, 10 NLT

When I read this my mind immediately went to "I don't do that" and then "what about that person who..."

Paul's examples in the verses between 1-10 seem to be about preferences (meat v vegetables, what people eat, what holy days they recognise) not about actions that harm others.

But something in me doesn't like being told to "not look down" on another person, another believer, not to judge them, like I have some kind of right to do that. 

Learning to put down that response is tough work. Fortunately, Paul gives us the mechanism a little earlier in his letter to the church in Rome:

 

"Don't just pretend to love others. 

Really love them. 

Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. 

Love each other with genuine affection, 

and take delight in honoring each other."

Romans 12:9-10 NLT

When I "really love" the condemnation and judgement over what are just preferences withers up and dies.

This is the transforming work that Paul states is so important:

"...but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.

Romans 12:2 NLT

Where do we need to "let God" shift things in us as we "really love" 

#letters

#letGod